You were young and carefree and life seemed endless. You had so much time in your hands that you literally didn’t know what to do with it. All the possibilities and choices were at the grasp of your palm and despite early adulthood disappointments, you still often felt like the queen of the world!

Where have all those years gone? That nice untroubled, easy-going reality has become the past and problems are over clouding most of our days. Despite that, however, sometimes life has treated us good, we have created memories over the years, travelled the world, created a family, became career women, enjoyed bringing up our children. experienced academic success and through the heartaches and failures we still managed to do something worthwhile with our lives.

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Life is also short; well, at least shorter than we originally thought!

I will tell you nothing you don’t know very well already. Life DOES go by fast and unfortunately, most of us just keep repeating this saying in our heads, without really evaluating its true meaning.

As years go by, life goes by even faster. We mostly get preoccupied regretting or being nostalgic about the past and worrying too much about the future, that we genuinely forget to live our present. Life is also short; well, at least shorter than we originally thought.

As we grow older we have come face to face with certain diseases that were supposed to be someone else’s problem and have become aware of our mortality status. Every death of a loved one or friend reminds us of that fact. And what do we really do about it?

To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.    – Oscar Wilde

If you honestly want a successful, happy and fulfilled life full of meaning, then you have to live it! Having a successful life doesn’t, by any means, imply that you have to be the CEO of Sony: not at all. Success is feeling happy, having people around you that love you, going to bed with a clear conscience every night, making your children feel happy, looking after your old grandmother. All those things and more are the real successes in life.

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If we don’t have any direction at all then its very easy and tempting to just lay back and go with the flow

When I was younger I couldn’t wait for a new adventure to begin every day. I almost never did any kind of planning and I was satisfied with that decision of mine. To this day, I am still not a great believer in the notion that all our life should be a huge carefully thought of

To this day, I am still not a great believer in the notion that all our life should be a huge carefully thought of plan which is totally organised and calculated.

Nothing can take away the beauty of the unknown and the magic of the risky. 

However, we do need some kind of structure! We have to have some kind of ambition, a few targets that will only aim at enhancing our lives for the better.

If we have no direction at all then it becomes very tempting to just lay back and go with the flow, wherever that take us, this way missing out on very exciting and important information on our life quality and future.

Life’s plan should be viewed as challenging, exciting, rich, full of variety, unexpected and impressive. Using our brain is also a compulsory requirement throughout all life’s decisions!

Many people say that everything happens for a reason and that making plans is a waste of time. That’s not true. Even if you believe in predetermination, making a plan for your life still provides you with a sense of direction, and motivates you to look to the future while you meaningfully live your present. That is the only way to live it!

You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough! – Mae Vest       

Psychologist, world citizen, mother - Effie is one half of the founding pair. She can bring to life any party with either a smile, or a strong opinion. If like us you can't get enough of Effie, visit her blog at

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