Anxiety and stress; the monsters of the century. There are many successful ways to combat both, from natural remedies like psychotherapy and meditation to exercise and even medication. Dr Stanley Hibbs, however, has something else in mind. Dr. Hibbs is an anxiety expert and works in his private practice at the Atlanta Network for Individual & Family Therapy. During one of his conferences, he shared a truly innovative strategy involving a powerful word that literally diminishes symptoms of anxiety.
According to Dr. Hibb’s: “this magic word helps combat discouragement and turns potentially disastrous days into productive ones. It’s good for your health, your self-esteem, and can make you a more productive, better person.” The magic word is “Nevertheless” !
Yes, you heard right, this simple everyday word, when used properly, has the power to change the way you feel about things and lower your anxiety. Dr. Jeffrey Bernstein, a psychologist with over 23 years of experience specializing in child, adolescent, couples, and family therapy, explains how to use it.
- “I’m tired and I’ve earned the right to goof off. Nevertheless, I can get a few more things done and then relax.”
- “It’s very cold outside and I don’t feel like walking today. Nevertheless, it’s very important so I’m going to do it anyway.”
- “I’m upset and ice cream is my comfort food. Nevertheless, I will find a better way to deal with my feelings.”
- “I think I will fail this test but, nevertheless, I am going to start studying and give it my best.”
Dr. Hibbs believes that ‘nevertheless’ allows us to pause for a minute and realise that we do have other options and choices we could be making. When we feel like not dealing with a specific task or even postpone it indefinitely, we always come up with ‘valid’, to us, excuses …ermm reasons I meant, for doing so. Nevertheless, we can still choose to do it,anyway,and feel much better afterwards, avoiding unnecessary anxiety.