[dropcap type=”1″]H[/dropcap]aving to relocate for work and worried your relationship will be ruined? A bit suspicious of getting romantically involved with that guy from far away you met on Facebook? That is not a problem anymore; on the contrary, it is apparently the way forward in interpersonal relationships.
A new study published in the Journal of Communication found that people who are in long distance relationships have stronger bonds and often form deeper and more meaningful communication than normal ‘face-to-face’ relationships.
But why is that? Does this mean I have to ditch my new boyfriend in an attempt to find one leaving miles and miles away so I have a better successful relationship chance? The truth is that long distance relationships are a bit misunderstood. They have been branded as ‘problematic’ and ‘not normal’ , over the years accused of creating jealousy and stress amongst the partners involved. Little emphasis has been given though on their structure or quality. It is indeed very common now for couples to engage in love-distance romance with a reported 3 million married American couples alone, living apart and between to 25%-50% students currently being in long term relationships.
To come back to our study, Crystal Jiang, of City University of Hong Kong and Jeffrey Hancock, of Cornell University, asked dating couples in long-distance and geographically close relationships to report their daily interactions over different media: phone calls, email, face to face, texting, instant messenger and video chat. They had to report the intimacy they experienced and how much of themselves they shared with their partner and to what extent they felt their partners did the same thing.
“When comparing the two types of relationships, Jiang and Hancock found that long-distance couples felt more intimate to each other, and this greater intimacy is driven by two tendencies: long-distance couples disclosed themselves more, and they idealized their partners’ behaviors. These two tendencies become more manifested when they communicated in text-based, asynchronous and mobile media because they made more efforts to overcome the media constraints”.
[quote_box_center]So there you have it; Long distance romance is not a taboo anymore and it won’t give you lesser chances of success. And just as Crystal Jiang puts is: “The long-distance couples try harder than geographically close couples in communicating affection and intimacy, and their efforts do pay back.”[/quote_box_center]
So, do not be afraid to risk your romance, girls. Let’s leave this ‘long-distance doesn’t work’ taboo behind and invest something more than just prejudice in that relationship that counts.
If you can survive that – then you can survive anything!