Mother: only one word, so many meanings. Whether you are a working mum or a stay-at-home mum, your jobs and tasks are endless and don’t lack in variety. Caregivers, cooks, cleaners, psychologists, chauffeurs, doctors, managers, hairdressers, dieticians, accountants, teachers, waitresses, maids and nurses are just few of the roles we take on daily.There just aren’t enough hours in the day, we just don’t have enough arms to handle all the things we have to do. However, what we mastered is improvisation and lateral thinking, so let’s put that multitasking brain of ours to work, and figure out how to keep our sanity!

 

Last time we set down the basic rules for our new reduced-stress lifestyle. It’s time for some much needed organizing –  one of the most crucial tasks a mother takes on!

Make lists! How much can a single mind handle? How can we remember all those appointments, school times, shopping checklists, doctor meetings and so much more? Make a list for absolutely everything – this way you will always be reminded of what’s needed to be done.

IMG_5314Use a calendar. That is an excellent way to note down everything and sort them out in days and months. You can add everyone’s appointments on there so daily you know what is every member of the family is doing. Children actually prefer to know what the plan is, and what they are supposed to do. They will automatically become more responsible once they are given a daily schedule, if the parents help keep to it.

Get a whiteboard/blackboard. Hang a wall board of your preference in the kitchen area, hallway or next to the phone. Encourage your family to use a different colored pen or choke for each member and write on it stuff like shopping needed, an important message, or even draw funny things for each other to make you all smile.

Create individual letterboxes. This is a great idea! Make letterboxes for everyone using shoe boxes – everyone can color or decorate it the way they like. In it, there will be letters, reminders, notes and messages for each member of your family. When they come back from home and work they will check their post boxes! This will save you a lot of time cleaning up scattered letters all over the house that end up getting lost.

Phone your partner. Yes, that is absolutely necessary! Always make sure you phone each other and confirm who is picking up the children from school, the gym or their piano lessons. You need to know who is doing what and you need to know that in good time. Keep that communication going.

Share your work commitments with your other-half. If your job requires a lot of traveling, or even if it doesn’t but you still have a lot of deadlines and meetings, make sure you share these dates and times with each other, weeks in advance.

Post-itHave lunch dates with your partner. You heard me right! You both need a break and some space away from home. Choose a time when your children are at school or doing outdoor activities and go for lunch or dinner. You can talk about every single family issue you can fit in that time frame without the interference of the children. It is a perfect way to do some bonding of your own while you get a chance to discuss important matters.

Arrange family meetings. Every month or so, depending on what works better for you, meet up with everyone and make an evaluation of the home situation. If you feel unhappy with a certain arrangement, then find an alternative that satisfies you all.

All wonderful moms around the world – relax!! Rome wasn’t built in a day and you cannot fit a 70 hour schedule in the same day either! I promise I will provide you with some very practical ideas and tips to make your parental life  easier and you feeling more chilled out and loosen up. Till next time
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Psychologist, world citizen, mother - Effie is one half of the alwaysladies.com founding pair. She can bring to life any party with either a smile, or a strong opinion. If like us you can't get enough of Effie, visit her blog at www.thethinkingmomblog.com

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